The tween (10-12) and teen years (13- 19) are riddled with change and can bring confusion, self-doubt, anxiety, stress and social challenges. But also growth and opportunity. Helping this age group build their resilience as they navigate major change is key. I understand it is absolutely necessary to meet them where they are, be approachable and appreciate their interests, concerns and strengths.
I believe parents need to understand the process and challenges to establish a trusting relationship and provide the best support to their tweens/teens. Keeping this in mind, frequently the parent/s are brought into some sessions but this is only with the permission of the tween/teen. It is usually following individual work with the client; having established rapport, trust and respecting confidentiality.
Changes can overwhelm us at any point in our lives which is why I choose to work with adults- from young to old. I counsel people experiencing a range of issues but my focus tends to be on tough experiences of change and the stuff that comes up as a result.
Working one on one gives you the time and space to decide what you want to work on. The process can help you understand the experience, your feelings and losses. It can help you see how the change/s is shifting your relationships and the way you view and experience life. It can help you access and build upon your strengths, gain acceptance and ways of coping and discover a new sense of self.
At times, we may bring partners or family members into the counselling process. This is done only with the permission of the client.
There are particular biological, environmental and psychosocial issues and changes that impact a woman's wellbeing. Although every female experiences the world in her own way, women have common life experiences. These lifespan events and transitions can lead to emotional challenges and hinder a woman becoming or maintaining her best self.
Women experience specific issues related to relationships, career and the workplace, inequality and gender expectations, motherhood, parenting, sexuality and balancing career and family. Females are especially prone to eating disorders, body image struggles, low self-esteem, guilt and self-blame. Some mental health concerns are connected to hormonal changes and aging: puberty, pregnancy, PPD, PMDD, peri-menopause, menopause. Infertility, miscarriage and difficult childbirth are physical health issues that can have a serious emotional impact on a woman. Overwhelming stress, anxiety and depression are prevalent amongst women. Women are also more likely to experience trauma throughout their lives compared to men.
I am intimately familiar with all that comes with being a helping professional since that has been my entire working life. Whether you are a teacher, nurse, doctor, PSW, vet, firefighter, police, paramedic, social worker, therapist or a caregiver who may be caring for a loved one, you may already know that change, stress and burnout tend to come with the job.
These helping roles are buried by the demands of whom we care for and serve and at the same time, by the expectations and pressure we often put on ourselves as helpers.
As a helping professional, we often have a fear of sharing how we are feeling, especially when its in the workplace. We can have a hard time leaving work at work and setting healthy boundaries for ourselves due to the nature of our work. And as educated and trained as we are in self-care, identifying stress and watching for burnout, it can still be challenging to know when we need to ask for help for ourselves.